Don't quarrel, for health's sake

This may be old news to some people but it still bears recounting.
All of us are guilty at one time or another for being upset with others, whether within the family or with office colleagues.

If you don't keep your anger inside you for any prolonged period of time, then there's nothing to be concerned about. But if you are the type to nurse a hurt till it bears roots deep in your heart, then you better sit up and listen.

According to the ancient wise ones, and recently among medical researchers, being upset, angry and unreasonably frustrated for long stretches of time, will do the angry person more harm than he realises.

First, it plays havoc with your heart. Second, it damages your liver and third, it screws around with your stomach. Unless you don't intend to make your life a long one, then you can ignore my advice and allow your family to collect your life insurance (if you have one!).

It doesn't need any intellectual argument to know that a very upset person will not only endanger his own health, he will also unwittingly cause an imbalance in his state of mind.

Generally, he will cause others to avoid him or worse, trigger a chain of malicious gossip about his bad self.

We all get upset, angry and downright unreasonable at times but let's not make a career out of it. Let's say, if you were to unexpectedly pass away, let it not be known that on your tombstone are these words: "Thank God, he's on the other side now."

Nobody likes an angry person. In fact, most normal human beings avoid people like that. It is a nerve-racking experience to be associated with such a person. If your house is burnt down, you just lost all your savings at the stock market and some insane person has just stolen your car, then you have a right to be angry and upset at the same time.

But being angry has got no long term benefits. In reality, most emotionally charged person will generally suffer a burn-out in due course.

Quarrelling is one of the best avenues to shorten one's own life. Don't go out looking for trouble. Don't pick a fight with strangers. Or worse, with people you love.

There's nothing worse than a person going through life making others feel bad. One antidote for a perpectually angry person is the realisation that no matter how much or how long your anger stays with you, nothing generally will change the situation.

So save your energy and learn to be happy. Find a reason to be happy. If you can't find one, be happy anyway. Don't worry about people labelling you as mad.

Better be a happy but mad person than an angry person with his days numbered.

So the bottom line is: Don't quarrel, for heaven's sake, as well as for yours.