Here's something not so big a secret

The problem with most people is that they want to live a long life but when you ask them why, they can't come up with a proper answer.

Just live as long as possible until they are sick and tired of it or just plain sick and very tired. One of those things that people who live long lives have neglected to tell you is that they have learnt to "let go" of a lot of things that we personality type are still steadfastly hanging on to.

For example, if we can't get what we want, we kick up a fuss and make sure everybody within earshot hears about it. We do not know how to let go. It's not the physical act of unclutching something but rather the mental process of not giving that particular thing any importance so that we won't lose any sleep over it.

There have been times when all of us professionals become uptight and highly strung, so much so that everybody near us become nervous and restless.

Letting go is a good habit. It helps to relieve stress. People just don't want to let go. For some people when a loved one dies, they are in mourning for long stretches. Why?

It doesn't benefit the one who had passed away. It also brings nothing but pain to the one who mourns. Of course, there's a time for grief but sorrow like everything else is not supposed to go on and on.

When a person lies on the bed of sorrow for too long, it will paralyses his happy mechanism. This is where letting go comes in. For example, if your parents pass away suddenly, there will be shock, followed by pain and sorrow.

The time of bereavement will be a dark period for you and your family. That is natural and eminently understandable. But when you hold on to their memories for too long, the darkness will become your shroud.

Why indulge in misery and prolonged grief when it's totally unnecessary? As there is life, there must too be death. Both are two sides of the same coin called life.

We do not live as long as some animals on earth. Ours is a passing fancy. It is a light that lits up the lives of others and is soon extinguished.

Part of the process of maturing in the spirit of life is letting go on proper occasions. Man was not created to grieve endlessly or to mourn incessantly for people who have limited lifespans.

We are spirits living in bodies, and not bodies with spirit.

Learn to let go. The time will come when such an act is more of a balm than that of a shackle.